Brain Tips Archive
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Click on the below links to read our Brain Tips Archives:
- Brain Tip #67: When It’s Better to Receive than to Give
- Brain Tip #66: Burden of Greatness Revisited
- Brain Tip #65: Why People Don’t Hear You
- Brain Tip #64: Brighten Up the Mood Ring of Your Team
- Brain Tip #63: The Bourne Mentality
- Brain Tip #62: Are you lonely?
- Brain Tip #60: Snap or Nap Judgments
- Brain Tip #59: Creating The AHA moment
- Brain Tip #58: Why Practice Can’t Make Perfect
- Brain Tip #57: From Black and White to Shades of Gray
- Brain Tip #56: Plump up your brain
- Brain Tip #55: What Were You Thinking? Why The Brain Makes Poor Choices, and How to “Smarten It Up”
- Brain Tip #54: It's A Great Time to Be Someone Else
- Brain Tip #53: How to Read Someone’s Mind
- Brain Tip #52: Working Late Makes You Stupid
- Brain Tip #51: Even Managers Sing the Blues About Change
- Brain Tip #50: This is Your Brain on Unfairness
- Brain Tip #49: Focusing is Dangerous to Your Health and Relationships
- Brain Tip #48: Nourishing the Creative Brain
- Brain Tip #47: Do Men and Women Worry Differently?
- Brain Tip #46: Balance Safety with Challenge for Success
- Brain Tip #45: Use Daydreaming to Improve Your Communication Skills
- Brain Tip #43: A New Diet for Your Mind
- Brain Tip #42: Are We Cultivating a Culture of Cretans?
- Brain Tip #41: Getting Help to See the Light
- Brain Tip #40: Negotiate the Source Not the Symbol
- Brain Tip #39: Why You Should Care About Anger Management
- Brain Tip #37: Body Building for Your Brain
- Brain Tip #36: Will Your Brain to Work Faster and Smarter
- Brain Tip #35: Complain Your Way to Better Relationships
- Brain Tip #34: Toxic Alert! You May Be Poisoning Yourself At This Very Moment
- Brain Tip #33: New Years Evolutions
- Brain Tip #32: How to Make a Logical Decision
- Brain Tip #31: The Clues for Growth Are in the Complaints
- Brain Tip #30: How to Be a Powerful Leader
- Brain Tip #29: The Power of Expectations
- Brain Tip #28: You Have to Let Go to Move Forward
- Brain Tip #27: Stress is a Human Invention
- Brain Tip #26: Let’s Start an Emotional Revolution
- Brain Tip #25: Celebrate, Don’t Suffocate, Your Success
- Brain Tip #24: A Prescription for Plain
- Brain Tip #23: The Burden of Greatness
- Brain Tip #22: Are You Conscious?
- Brain Tip #21: The Truth About Changing Attitudes
- Brain Tip #20: The Lost Art of Connection
- Brain Tip #19: The Top 6 Ways You Can Drain Your Energy At Work....And How You Can Choose to Stay Living While You’re Alive
- Brain Tip #18: Just Say No to Techno
- Brain Tip #17: Doing a Job versus Creating a Life
- Brain Tip #16: How to Get High
- Brain Tip #15: The Top 3 Sources of Communication Breakdowns
- Brain Tip #14: Mind Over Body
- Brain Tip #13: Getting Beyond Illusion
- Brain Tip #12: Staying Up in Down Times
- Brain Tip #11: Brain Calisthenics for Staying Young
- Brain Tip #10: Feelings vs Emotions
- Brain Tip #9: Who Will You Be?
- Brain Tip #8: Increase Your Intuition
- Brain Tip #7: Play the Ball In Front Of You
- Brain Tip #6: Men and Women ARE Different
- Brain Tip #5: When Being Smart Isn't Smart
- Brain Tip #4: You Can’t Do Everything
- Brain Tip #3: Rid the Fear In Order To Hear
- Brain Tip #2: Train Your Brain to Be Smarter
- Brain Tip #1: Seek to Create, Not to Avoid
Brain Tip #68: Hope for our Future
Plain Content
If you love your job and workplace, don’t read this. If you aren’t happy, or you are a manager with troubled employees, please read this and pass it on to every manager and leader you know.
This is not a brain tip. It is a rant. I can’t keep it in any longer.
I have a confession to make. I have been training people in corporations around the world for 27 years. I describe what I teach as classes in leadership, communications and personal effectiveness. In truth, I mostly teach people how to cope.
Even my coaching and speaking is focused more on strategizing how to survive than on how to achieve.
During this economic downturn and times of chaotic change, it only gets worse. Especially in the US, I see managers using this excuse to revert to micromanaging, blaming and putting a lid on creative efforts.
Is there no foresight? The US is losing stature in the world marketplace. Now is the time for creativity and revamping the old hierarchical cultures to make them smarter, faster, and stronger through open communications and participation.
I wish the leaders who are cutting back could see the tears and anger when I try to teach their employees one more way they could do their jobs better. “My boss doesn’t treat me the way you say I should treat others,” they tell me. “Did they attend this training? When will they practice what you teach?”
Mostly what I teach is how to really see the people we work with…to hear them, understand them, acknowledge them and see their highest potential. From there, team building, leading, and collaborating are easier skills to implement.
Why do leaders who have read all the books, heard all the gurus speak, and attended all the seminars still manage by fear? They don’t include their employees in decision making, they don’t share information (good and bad) about the future, and they don’t trust people to learn from their mistakes and grow. Can we change this habitual behavior?
People don’t work well when their managers don’t trust and believe in them. When you take away their feeling of control over their lives and predictability about their future, they lose hope. Without hope, you will never get their best, creative effort. They will cope, survive, and try not to dwell in their fear.
Worst of all, most managers don’t work to develop their employees to be strong and autonomous. Rarely does a company pay money to develop their high achievers (I am thankfully working with a few who do). Most training for managers focuses on what to do with poor to average performers. What about developing the high-potentials? Shouldn’t a company focus their resources on their strengths?
According to a Net Future Institute (NFI) survey of 2,000 execs, 66% of people working in large organizations would rather work in small or midsized firms. What would make these defectors stay? They want the space to risk and grow, and they want confidence in their leaders.
It’s not all bad…I do work with a few progressive companies that recognize the world has become more networked, collaborative and accessible. They are easing their hierarchies, opening communication and engaging everyone to co-create. They teach their managers coaching as a leadership style. They engage their employees by caring, not by fear.
That is why I don’t retire. I still have hope.
Drop me a note if you still have hope, too. I would love to hear about it.
And pass this on. I would love to further the conversation not about what needs to happen, but how we are going to make it happen.
