Increase your Emotional Discernment and Comprehension
It’s often hard to put a name on what emotion you’re experiencing because it’s likely that your brain is processing more than one reaction at a time. Not only do feelings overlap and blend, but there are hundreds of emotions, each with many gradations of intensity, that make emotional awareness a difficult skill to master. Yet, the more adept you are at discerning the force that is shaping your mood and directing your actions, the greater will be your ability to manage your feelings, thoughts, and behaviors.
You can choose to act based on possibilities instead of reacting to the moment based on habit. The result is greater effectiveness, productivity and confidence. And, as you come to comprehend your own emotions and behavior, you increase your understanding for what drives the actions of those around you. With this knowledge, you can improve your relationships, and above all, your happiness. Emotional intelligence is a key factor to enhancing your quality of life.
Three times a day for the next two weeks, set your watch or computer to remind you to notice:
1) what you are doing and who you are doing it with (working alone, talking with family, attending a meeting, driving, eating with a friend, watching a movie alone, etc.)?
2) the emotions you are feeling in the moment and why. Consider what is the source of the emotions. What do you think triggered the emotions you are feeling?
Use the attached inventory and time table to help you identify what you are feeling. If you are sleeping during the times listed, then adjust the hours on the assessment to fit your schedule.
Remember, honesty is important. Recognition alone can often diffuse or increase an emotional reaction. You may find that over time, the intensity of some moods decrease, while other sensations, hopefully the more pleasant ones, increase. That’s why emotional intelligence helps in all aspects of your personal growth.